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Ten awful thing to say in bed

Most of us know about the various things that turn on our partners and the small bloopers that put them off. While enough has been said about how to build the mood for a steamy pleasure session, you probably don't know about things that could spoil the pleasure once you are in the action. (Getty Images)

Apart from your annoying bedroom habits, extreme intimate gestures, wrong sexual positions, disliked physical attributes; there are certain unintentional things, which, if said at the wrong time, can act as libido killers. It's evident that while having sex, there are several things on a couple's mind but the issue creeps up when couples let these things come in way of those most cherished moments and thus end up killing the passion.

It is rightly said that sex is the art of love and it must be done in the most enjoyable and most satisfying manner. To enjoy this intimate and private activity, couples shall let go of all their apprehensions, fears and insecurities. But unfortunately, the looming anxieties find their ways into our bedroom lives.

Dr. Suneel Vatsyayan, relationship counselor asserts, "Sex is to be enjoyed in the present and if any partner thinks about impending things from past or future, it would act as disruption. Saying anything outside your bedroom conversations will become a deviation. Your partner might feel offended and unloved. Understand the fact that your partner will not accept anything outside your intimacy, to enter your isolated sexual moments, and hence such intrusion is highly opposed."

Top 10 things that couples must avoid saying in bed:

Are you enjoying?
This is the most common and the worst of all situations that couples come across. Though it's good to be communicative with your partner about things that are enjoyed or disliked in bed but that doesn't mean you start interrupting in between the act thus killing the heating passion.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Amita Mishra says, "Asking your partner again and again to evaluate your performance and speak out their pleasure level might just leave them irked and it is a symptom of performance anxiety where you are more concerned about how the act is progressing and less focused on the pleasure quotient. You maybe either too probing whether your partner is enjoying or too anxious whether you're able to give satisfactory amount of pleasure."

Are you through darling?
Again, this is a repetitive mistake that most couples would make in bed. Sex is something you should enjoy not obligate, so treat it like a necessity of life not a duty that has to be fulfilled each time you get intimate. "If you keep interrogating your partner on whether they're 'through' with the act might sound like you're no more interested in the act and waiting for it to get over soon. It also makes your partner feels apprehensive if the sexual act is becoming a burden on you, so try and avoid being too inquisitive rather let your partner also enjoy the act as much as you did," suggests Ranjan Malik, a clinical psychiatrist.

Shall we turn off the lights?
Of course, you aren't making out in public, so how does it make a difference if lights are switched off or not. Many a times, a partner would suddenly disrupt in between a steamy sex session only to ask that whether they should now turn off the lights, without realising that it might just delay their partner's smooth act towards the peak point.

"Many couples are hesitant and don't want to undress in front of their present with lights on, so they insist on going in the dark and enjoy the act. But such things should not become a hindrance during sex. If you're uncomfortable having sex with lights on, discuss it with your partner before you slip between the sheets, leaving no chance of disturbing them in between the pleasure," says body language expert Geeta Kanan.

I think I forgot to take the pill
You can't expect anything better out of women. No matter how much they're charged for a pleasurable night, they can't get rid of the disturbing reminders about the contraceptive pill. Imagine your partner is about to reach the climax and you abruptly get up saying that 'you forgot to take the pill'. Indeed a turn off!

Gynecologist Meenu Aggarwal states, "As women want to avoid unwanted pregnancy, they remain bothered about their contraceptive pills and with these thoughts hanging on their mind all the time, they do not enjoy the sexual act as much as the male partner would expect. We suggest our patients to be extra careful to take the pill at the right time thus avoiding any chance of these tensions come in way of their pleasure."

You're far better than my ex
Comparison can sometimes be the most offensive gesture you can show to your partner and if that happens in the bed, tables can really turn around. Males often find themselves in a fix where they end up comparing their present bedroom partner either with his ex or someone he fantasises about, without realising what harm it can do to his relation. Kanav Gupta, (34) a software engineer by profession shares, "I broke up with my girlfriend after a seven year long relationship and we indulged physically a few times. But now when I am married, I still haven't been able to forget my past. Many a times, while having sex with my wife, I have uttered my ex's name and I can understand how disturbing it gets."

Dr. Kamal Khurana a relation counselor suggests, "While in bed, couples shall think of their quality time meant for uninterrupted comfort. Nothing said is unintentional, it comes only because it's there somewhere in your mind. No wife or girlfriend would accept his man thinking about another woman and moreover expressing it while making love. Try and think more about your current partner and thus leaving no space for your past relations to obstruct your sexual life."

You must hit the gym soon
Apart from the bedroom anxieties, there are several things that keep hovering couples' mind and act as wreckers in their sexual life. It's good to comment your partner about their physical attributes but there has to be a right tie for it. Pointing your wife's weight gain and suggesting her to hit the gym next morning can be good but doing this while having sex can act as the deadliest wrecker.

"Such expressions reflect your sheer concern or disliking towards your partner's body issues, which ideally shouldn't cause a trouble in your sexual life. Many individuals are particular about their partner's weight, body hair, bulging belly etc and commenting on these attributes while having sex may make your partner feel snubbed. It also shows how unenthusiastically you're involved in the act of love and instead concentrating on other areas," adds Geeta.

Office was pretty hectic today
When boardroom stress descends to the bedroom, it is sure to cause doldrums in sexual pleasure. While the man would always have office dilemmas on his mind, but the issue comes in when he unexpectedly expresses it out while having sex and pollutes the romantic mood.

Dr. Khurana elucidates, "There are so many stress issues in a person's life and if any area gets disturbed, it will have a bearing on other verticals as well. For instance, the current financial crisis is causing turmoil in working professional' s life and if these office worries are taken to the bedroom, they will surely cause hitches in a couple's sexual life. But they need to understand that a cut in salary doesn't mean a cut in their love and romance. It's good to share things with your partner and expect them to stand beside you but discounting on your sexual pleasure for this can't be a wise thing."

What's in breakfast tomorrow?
It's not bad to be a foodie but not so much so that you have only food on your mind all the time, even while having sex. Though couples would love to experiment with aphrodisiacs before or during sex but imagine if your partner is too keen on knowing the morning breakfast menu and that too while you're intimate – it can't get worse. "Expressing these subconscious thoughts suggests that either you're too hungry for food at the moment or you're least interested in the act and are planning for the next day. Be it men or women intending to discuss the breakfast menu in bed, it will only irritate the other partner, who was expecting some happy sex moments sans routine conversations. "

How are kids doing in school?
Caring for kids, is a lovely gesture but expressing it at the wrong time, for instance while having sex with your partner, can do more harm than good. Showing this family concern during the cosy moments in bed would only let your partner feel your reluctance in sex and thus you end up killing the passion. "My wife always complains that I do not participate much in kids' upbringing but the depressing part is that I often end up asking about kids while I am in bed with my partner. I hardly get time during office hours or otherwise to know what going with kids, and when I discuss this in the bedroom, my wife thinks I'm trying to avoid her."

Dr. Amita explains, "Though this is a very petty area on which a couple can actually end up fighting or killing their pleasure but if this is the case, it has to be understood that your partner needs undivided attention in bed. Even talking of kids, at a time which is meant for pleaser, can make them feel abandoned. So, try and talk out these things over dinner or a phone cal during the day but reserve the bedroom moments exclusively for your partner."

Have you paid the pending bills?
Agreed that household tensions can't be done away with but they surely can wait outside the bedroom. Some partners do have a tendency to get full report of monthly household expenses but such things can be well discussed at dinner table, why let them invade your comfort moments and disrupt the bedroom life.

Dr. Malik reasons, "Men are always worried about these impending household expenses but they fail to prioritise their concerns. Asking or mentioning such things while having sex would of course be a turn off for the other partner, so the only way to deal with it could be a prolonged for*play so that you only concentrate on the pleasure act and leave all other tensions outside the bedroom."

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10 Tips to Improve Your Speaking Voice

One of the most important components of public speaking is the sound of your voice. It influences the impact of your message, and might even make or break the success of your speech. Fortunately, for many people, good voice quality can be learned.

Instructions :

1. Breathe from your diaphragm -

Practice long and controlled exhales. When you speak, use breath to punctuate your point. For example, take a breath at the end of each phrase whether you need to or not. Use that opportunity to pause and let the listeners absorb what you say.

2. Use pitch -

Lower pitches generally are more soothing to hear. However, modulating your pitch for emphasis will keep your listeners engaged. Develop your pitch by practicing humming.

3. Moderate your volume -

Find out if you speak too loudly or too softly. When you begin speaking, ask your audience how your volume is (each situation is different). Try to stay at the appropriate volume throughout your speech.

4. Moderate your pace -

This one is also closely related to breath. If you speak too quickly, people can't keep up. If you speak too slowly, people will lose interest. Record your speech to determine if you need to change your pace. Get feedback from others.

5. Articulate -

Try exaggerating your lip movement to reduce mumbling. Practice articulating tongue twisters and extending and exaggerating vowel sounds. Become an expert at articulating tongue twisters as quickly and crisply as possible. Focus on the ones you find difficult.

6. Practice

Practice your speech in advance and determine where you want to pause for a breath. For more emphasis, pause for more than one breath. Mark your breathing points in your notes.

7. Loosen up

Loosen up Before you begin. Look side to side. Roll your head in half-circles and roll your shoulders back. Shift your rib cage from side to side. Yawn. Stretch. Touch your toes while completely relaxing your upper body, then slowly stand up, one vertebra at a time, raising your head last. Repeat as needed.

8. Posture -

Stand up straight and tall to allow full lung capacity and airflow.

9. Record

Record your voice repeatedly using different ways of speaking. Determine which one is most pleasing.

10. Practice breath control -

Take a deep breath, and while you exhale, count to 10 (or recite the months or days of the week). Try gradually increasing your volume as you count, using your abdominal muscles—not your throat—for volume. Don't let your larynx tense up.

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20 Fun things to do at a Fast Food Restaurant

"Warning"

Do this at you own risk people may thing your crazy lol ..

1.Go up to the counter and ask for something from a different fast food outlet. E.g. Go up to a Mcdonalds counter and ask for a Zinger, when they say they dont sell them here, Yell out "F*U*" really loud, And say this loudly so everyone can hear you, "I guess ill go to kFC and get a bigmac then".

2.Give confusing orders such as "could i have an orange coke and a small medium fries"

3.For this one you will need a friend with a uniform from one of these fast food places. Go in carrying a sack with "blood" (try using tomato sauce) dripping out of the bottom and say at top pitch. "WHERE DO YOU WANT THESE COW HOOVES" and get your friend to go "yep over hear" and hand you a twenty dollar note.

4.Sit down at a table and try to shoot spitballs into peoples food using a straw.

5. Ask for the kids meal and sit down at a table playing "army" with the toy and making loud sound effects.

6. Keep falling off your chair and laughing hysterically about it and then after about 10 times fall off again but this time look sternly at the chair and say "its not funny anymore".

7.If they have music playing quietly through speakers say "I love this song", get on top of the table and start singing along using your drink as a microphone.

8.When theres a really long line take forever to decide what you want then ask the cashier what they think is good and if when they tell you say "yeah like im gonna take advise from a cashier" and leave the restaurant.

9.When there are plenty of tables, sit down with a family and join in the discussion as though you know them.

10.Play in the kids playground.

11. Dress up as though you would going to work hold a clipboard knock on the employees only door and say "suprise health inspection" and watch the fun results.

12. Go up to the co punter with a friend. Be wearing all black clothes and make your friend be wearing a ski mask. Then signal him/her to take it off when you get to the counter and pay from a big bag with a dollar sign on it.

13.If they have a T.V. Showing what the security cameras see then walk past, stop step back and say "OH MY GOD, IM ON TV" and dance around saying "hi mum" for fifteen minuets.

14. Say your the food critic from the local paper and see if you get free food.

15. Walk up to the counter, jump over to the other side of it, and start taking orders. See if anyone does anything about it.

16. Just sit there eating calmly and then stop and stare out the window in horror and yell "THERE COMING, THERE COMING!!!" and hide under the table.

17. Buy the smallest order you can think of (e.g. 1 small coke) and try to pay with a check.

18. Order the largest thing you can think of (e.g. 6 large bigmac meals) and pay in five cent peices.

19. When theres a really long line, give a large order and when they tell you how much it is say "no your wrong" so that they repeat to you what you bought and ask you if thats what you ordered then you say "yes thats what I ordered but thats not the right price for it" argue for as long as you want then finally pull out a calculator and do it out yourself then frown do it again and say "my mistake", pay and walk off with your food.


20. When they give you your order and its sitting there on the counter, look at it, look at them, and say "im at that table over there" and go and sit down.

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Beauty of Rainbows

Rainbows are always refreshing to see. The beautiful color combinations which it has the shape it takes its just Natures Beauty.

5 ways to become attractive

While you’re sitting there reading this you’re going to learn that beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. When it comes to being attractive it all starts with how you feel about yourself. If you don’t think of yourself as attractive you won’t be able to exude this image when in public. So to better help you begin feeling attractive. Here is a list of steps you can take.

1. Take Proper Care of Yourself
This means that your diet should be a healthy one. It should be the one which is low calorie and low fat, and devoid of fast food. The majority of your meals should be filled with brightly colored vegetables and fruits. In addition, you should also have a strenuous workout regimen, one in which you exercise at least five times per week. Lastly, don’t forget to drink plenty of water. In fact, water should be mostly what you drink because it help cleanses impurities from the body.

2. Don’t Subscribe to All the Latest Fads
Fads come and go, especially in the beauty and health industry. The sad fact is that most of these fads are scams and don’t work. The only scientifically proven way to stay healthy and attractive long into old age is through a healthy diet and exercise.

3. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
An attractive person is one who stands out from the rest of the pack, so it’s amazing that most people strive to look like certain celebrities. Look, the fact of the matter is that no matter how hard a person tries they will never be able to mold their body and feature to look like their favorite famous person. Instead of focusing on this, they should focus on becoming attractive in a unique way. This approach will get a person noticed much faster.

4. Don’t Wear Yourself Out
Starving yourself and forcing yourself through rigorous exercise in the gym day in and day out is counterproductive to looking attractive and being healthy. Of course, you want to be thin. But you should not be so thin that you look sick. You can kill yourself in the gym everyday if you want, but you must make sure that you’re eating a properly balanced diet so that your body can benefit from the exercise properly.

5. Be Committed
You should understand that being healthy and attractive is a lifetime commitment. Sure, occasionally you’re going to slip and eat a big greasy hamburger. But understand that 99.9% of the time you won’t be doing this. There’s absolutely no way around this. If you’re not committed to the lifestyle you won’t be able to live it.

We live in a society where everyone has become obsessed with how other people see them. If you truly want to become attractive and start standing out then you have to follow the steps above, as well as build self-confidence in yourself that you’re an attractive person. If you can do this, other people will pick up on this and you truly will be an attractive person.

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Effectively use your cologne to drive women towards you

With the right cologne, find out the 6 secret spots on the body when sprayed will attract women and drive them crazy for the right reasons and be sure to receive compliments 24/7.

Instructions

Spot #1 Spray the back of your ears. Give a hug and see what'll happen!

Spot #2 Spray the chest/neck area (where chest meets neck) Great results when slow dancing!!

Spot #3 Spray the outer part of your arm or outer bicep area. (Brachialis) Go for a light stroll with her and make sure is holding your arm.

Spot #4 Spray inner forearm area. Ideal for when trying to put your arm around her shoulders.

Spot #5 Spray wrists. Talk with your hands!!

Spot #6 Spray behind knees. This area will set everything up!!

Tips & Warnings

- Be sure that after spraying these areas you give a gentle rub to the sprayed spots to insure there is an even amount on skin

- Only one spray per spot is required. Anything above one spray will be to much of an overpowering scent.

- Find the cologne that best fits your lifestyle, personality and skin color.

- For best results, always shower before using cologne.

- You can spray spots with your clothes on or without.

- Results will vary based on quality of cologne.

The science behind love

Love has no secrets from neurologists and what they have found contradicts the cynics: there is such a thing as everlasting love

Love, said Shakespeare, is “an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken”. On the contrary, wrote Swinburne, “Laurel is green for a season, and love is sweet for a day But love grows bitter with treason, and laurel outlives not May”. And so on . . . with infinite variations. Love is (or should be) the core of human experience, triggering every emotion from euphoria to despair as we write about it, sing about it, hope for it, worry about it and cry about its irrationality and transience. But the examination of love is no longer confined to the imagination. Where poets once conjured metaphors, scientists now probe the mental circuits that deliver its wild emotions. Love has no secrets from neurologists armed with an MRI brain scanner. What they have found contradicts the cynics: there is such a thing as everlasting love.

Researchers at Stony Brook University in New York have shown that the traditionally sorry path of sexual love - a downward spiral from lust to indifference over the space of a decade - is not an iron rule. Scanning the brains of people who have been together for 20 years, the scientists found that about one in 10 couples still display elements of “limerence”, the psychologists’ term for the obsessive behaviour of new lovers. They enjoy “intensive companionship and sexual liveliness” but without the anxieties and tensions of early love. They are generous, calm and deeply attached. The scientists call them swans (swans mate for life). This is good news for the 10%, if not for the remaining 90% gripped by marital fatigue. But Arthur Aron, leader of the researchers, says the majority can learn from the minority. One clue he has found is that the swans share experiences and avoid stress. This may be a symptom rather than a cause, but Aron, 64, and his wife are copying the swans anyway in the hope of enjoying a little limerence themselves.

If we cannot all be swans, the other good news is that Aron’s team has established a biological basis for romance. Science has long dismissed the idea of love as “culturally determined”, existing only in societies that believe in it. But Aron and co have found identical brain patterns in lovers from New York to Beijing. Unromantically, they say love is born in the brain’s reward-seeking circuitry, not the heart, but we are no worse off for that. Love matters. It is not confined to Christmas repeats of Love Actually and other daft (but really not so wide of the mark) Richard Curtis films. The absence of love from generation to generation led to the death of Baby P and other outbreaks of depravity that scarred 2008. As we face the tempests of 2009, love must remain the “ever-fixed mark” that is never shaken.

Beauty Tips

1.Brushing Up
Make body brushing a part of your daily routine. Scrubbing out dirt and grime is the least of its advantages. Body brushing tones and stimulates skin, helping with the natural drainage of the lymph glands.When brushing, work towards the heart, up from your legs and thighs, and down from your neck.Make sure you have a soft brush.

2.Banana Rama
For a great homemade face softener, try this: mash a banana and apply it to your face. Leave on for ten minutes and wash off with lukewarm water.
Your face feels like satin.

3.Pearly White
Ever looked in the mirror and felt that your teeth were going from white to off-white to yellow? Take a hard look at your habits. The biggest culprits in the teeth-yellowing process are tobacco, coffee, tea and red wine. So if you must indulge, brush your teeth afterwards whenever possible, or at least rinse with water.

4.Shades Of Summer
A snazzy pair of sunglasses not only looks great, but also delays the onset of crow's feet (wrinkles on the sides of the eyes) which are accelerated by squinting in the sun.

5.Peaches And Cream
Great looks come with great skin, so get crackin' on that epidermis. Dirt and oil blocks pores causing blackheads and pimples, while dirt, grime and pollutants are drawn to oily skin like moths to a flame. So wash your face as often as possible, and cleanse at least twice a day.

6.Instant Glow
Simply mix equal amounts of lemon and honey, apply
it to your face and wash off after ten minutes.

7.Luscious Locks
Nothing improves the quality of your hair better than getting a regular oil massage. Get it done at home once
a week.

8.All Steamed Up
After applying oil wrap your hair in a steaming towel for twenty minutes. Give your hair this steaming treatment at least once a month.

9.Fun In The Sun
Don't step out without loading on that sunscreen.
In summers, avoid stepping out between 12:00-2:00
the sun is at its peak.

10.Water Everywhere
You can never drink too much water.
Drink at least 10 glasses of water in a day.

Top Ten Relationship wreckers

Jealousy, money, the need for space and excessive use of the Internet are just a few things that can cause relationship strife.

Relationships are changing faster than ever before — and so are the triggers for break-ups , says UK based counsellor Andrew Marshall. New issues not even dreamt about 20 years ago, such as chatroom romances and online pornography, have risen to prominence. Here is the authoritative guide to what’s going up and what’s going down in the argument charts — and how to stop your relationship being derailed:

1. Low expectations
We expect relationships to fail. The “all men are jerks” mind set and “all women are bunny boilers” mentality has spread from being a joke with our mates into a self-fulfilling prophecy. We wait for our new boyfriend or girlfriend to trip up and then zoom in on their mistakes. Today’s couples think they are being realistic, but often this is just cynicism in disguise. Twenty years ago, couples saw marriage as an end in itself and were prepared to compromise to sustain their relationship. Therefore, they were more trusting and ready to give their partner the benefit of the doubt.

Solve it:
When people ask how many of my clients’ relationships are beyond help, my answer always surprises them: less than five percent. I believe that we make fundamentally good choices. So why so much divorce and misery? Everybody’s childhood leaves them with relationship dilemmas inherited from watching their parents’ marriage. It might be ‘not showing feelings’, ‘how to cope with unfaithfulness’ ‘temper tantrums’ or ‘attitudes to loss’ — the list in endless. We are drawn to people not just because of their great sense of humour or looks, as we imagine, but because they have similar problems to our own.

2. Work/life balance
Today we are working longer hours, doing more shift work, commuting further and therefore spending less time together than twenty years ago. When we’re tired, communication is cut down to the bare essentials (‘What time will you be back?’) as you cross paths in the kitchen. Although this shorthand is very efficient, there is no time to explain the complexity of our feelings. Into the gap leap all sorts of assumptions and misunderstandings. For example Rahul, a forty year-old chartered accountant, did not realise the importance of attending his partner’s company social. He did not understand why she was so huffy the next morning and just put the atmosphere down to a hangover but was in too much of a hurry to ask. In the past, couples would stay up half the night fighting, and probably solve the argument; today they are too aware of that early meeting to want to waste precious sleep time. Instead we complain that our partner never listens.

Solve it:
Invest in your relationship by setting aside ‘sacred time’ that belongs to just the two of you. For example: make Thursday night your date night — even if you can’t go out, spend the time talking, listening to music or making love. Many couples in therapy find they benefit most from the concentrated, quality time they spend together, rather than the counselling. Secondly, don’t make assumptions but check out your hunches.

3. Jealousy
Stories of celebrity infidelity and the divorces of supposedly ideal couples (like Jennifer and Brad) reinforce just how many people stray. Twenty years ago, we had a much clearer idea of right and wrong. But what constitutes being unfaithful today? Is it looking too long at a pretty face in the street? What about a long lunch with an admirer that you don’t tell your partner about? Is it ok if you stop at just a kiss?

Solve it:
Jealousy is a sure sign of poor self image: “I’m not good enough to be loved.” Rather than relying on your partner to give you confidence, find ways of giving yourself a boost, like going to the gym or taking evening classes. Next make a list of the occasions when you feel jealous. Try to tolerate, without resentment, the incidents that cause lower levels of jealousy. Over time, your partner will notice — probably subconsciously at first — that you have relaxed and are not monitoring him or her round the clock. He or she will then be more receptive to discussing the occasions that give you real stress — like the office Christmas party or going away on business without you. So how do you start this conversation ? First point out what you’ve achieved: “I’ve not been commenting about other men or women in the street or on television.” Secondly, talk about your fears about the up-coming event and how they make you feel. Finally ask if he or she can suggest anything they’d feel comfortable doing that might help. Agreeing to phone every evening at the same time or going away the next weekend together so there’s something to look forward to. It always feels better if these things are offered rather than having to demand them. All it takes is a little effort and understanding.

4. The internet
The arguments are not just how much time is spent on the Internet — for work or pleasure — but about starting deep ‘friendships’ in cyberspace and viewing pornography. Research among 1,500 adults found that 46 per cent believed emails, texting and chatrooms had led to a big rise in infidelity; 30 per cent had used electronic communication to flirt, or to sustain an affair; 22 per cent of them had done it every day and 62 per cent had done it once a week. In the past, few men had access to porn beyond top-shelf publications and most were too embarrassed to buy them. Today’s Internet porn is more extreme: we are bombarded with adverts for it. What’s more, the technically competent woman can trace every site her man has visited.

Solve it:
These problems need to be nipped in the bud. Long hours on the computer at home are a signal that something is wrong. Don’t ignore your instincts. Ask your partner why they need to spend so much time consuming ‘virtual’ life. They could be unhappy with your relationship together and the time on the computer is really a cry for help. So what kinds of Internet friendships are acceptable? Forums with a special interest - like Startrek or dog training — are fairly harmless but be wary of friendships made on general chat sites. Pornography is a tough one because everybody has different standards. Some couples decide to share it together and incorporate some of the ideas they discover into their regular lovemaking. Some women tolerate their men occasionally indulging, but ban spending money on the accessing pornography. Whatever your viewpoint, it is important to really listen to what your partner has to say. Unless you both truly understand each other’s opinions, you will not be able to find a working compromise.

5. Money
Different spending priorities have always been difficult, but the new twist is suddenly discovering your partner has accumulated large credit card debts. Couples today are generally less willing to have joint accounts than twenty years ago and instead use complicated systems to divide bills and shuttle money between them. For example, he pays the mortgage and for the car; while she pays for groceries and utilities. These artificial divisions are prone to misunderstanding and acrimony. Today’s couples think keeping their own bank accounts will stop arguments over one of them being a spendthrift. There will still be arguments over whether they can afford the latest iPod, but the argument is blind because in these ‘together-butapart’ financial partnerships, neither knows the real state of the others’ affairs.

Solve it:
Make a list detailing the general areas in which you spend your money, like holidays, investments, luxuries, etc. Each of you should separately rank these in order of importance and share your results. Next discuss how each of your parents might have ranked the same items, and how their choices affected you as a child. Remember money is never just about money, but intertwined with security, freedom, dependency, self-esteem and power. With a clearer understanding of each other’s fears about money, you will be better placed to agree on a budget. Next discuss having a joint household account; if you can share a life together can’t you also mingle your money? A little planning in the short run will help a lot in the long run.



Sex
Fewer couples go to counselling today to complain about their love life. This is partly because we are more knowledgeable and more

Why do relationships fail?

willing to talk about what we want in bed. However, many couples are simply too tired to enjoy sex and some can’t even find the energy to worry about it. When sex is a major issue, the most common complaint is that one partner has ‘gone off it’ — leaving the other bewildered and angry.

Solve it:
Don’t fall into the ‘all or nothing’ trap of either intercourse or a cold shoulder. Keep physically intimate - even when you’re too tired — by kissing, stroking and cuddling. This is pleasurable in its own right, not just as foreplay. Of course the fondling can turn into full sexual desire, but to start with, avoid this temptation until you have established that agreeing to a cuddle doesn’t guarantee sex. In the future, when the hand sneaks over to your side of the bed you don’t have to decide immediately if you’re interested, but instead have time to be intimate together and decide whether you want hors d’oeuvres or the full meal.

7. Space
Traditionally it’s been men who’ve wanted time to themselves, but today women burdened by work and kids are asking for ‘me’ time too. However it, is much less divisive than before as this generation of fathers (under 40) are much more involved with their children.

Solve it:
Successful couples are both team-mates and individuals, so don’t feel criticised if your partner needs space. Negotiate how often you each need time alone, and for how long, so there is a balance between ‘me’ time and ‘us’ time.

8. Children
Agreeing on the basic principals of child rearing is easy; the problems are all in the details. Fewer couples have bitter fights over their kids than 20 years ago — unless they have already split — but the stress points have changed from 20 years ago. Today couples worry about issues such as what happens when the child care arrangements break down, how much freedom it is safe to give children and how their internet usage can be supervised. Parents have always argued about what is appropriate at what age, but these days everything starts younger with, for example, pre-teens wanting to dress provocatively like their pop idols Britney Spears or Bipasha Basu.

Solve it:
Never let your kids divide and rule. Set up a system that allows you and your partner to confer before giving any major decision.

9. Division of labour
Twenty years ago, there were more arguments about gender roles at home and at work. Women still undertake more housework, but most couples seem to have reached an acceptable compromise. We are also benefiting from less of the old ‘men don’t talk’ and ‘women are better with feelings’ stereotyping.

Solve it:
If you pass on responsibility for something, you also give up control. However, if your partner’s standards and time scales set your teeth on edge try swapping jobs for something less stress-inducing . For example, if you are very picky about cleaning the bathroom and feel all the grouting between the tiles should be scrubbed every week, it is unlikely that your partner’s cleaning will meet your standards. Let him be responsible for something you are less passionate about instead, for example, loading and unloading the dishwasher. Be aware that sometimes people agree to do a job to keep the peace, but really are not that keen. Instead of speaking up, they silently communicate their dissatisfaction by never getting round to finishing jobs or deliberately doing it badly — so you don’t ask again. If this sounds familiar, you will probably also be familiar with the nagging and bitterness that accompanies it. Instead try a non-confrontational approach, where you share how this makes you feel rather than criticising, which makes people defensive.

10. In-laws
Nobody likes unasked-for advice, especially when it comes from his or her parents. However, if we rely on them for child care or financial help, they probably feel that they have a right to an opinion too. Involvement from outside is less of an issue than 20 years ago, as these days, not only do people see less of their parents , but parents are also more likely to respect our privacy.

Solve it:
Make certain your partner feels you are both on the same side in any dispute with either set of parents. You might make allowances for your own parents’ ‘little ways’, but don’t expect your partner to do the same.

Woman set fire to husband's genitals

An Australian woman allegedly set fire to her husband's genitals because she believed he was having an affair, a court heard. Rajini Narayan, 44, is accused of killing her husband Satish by dousing his genitals in methylated spirit while he slept.Mr Narayan, who suffered burns to 85 per cent of his body, died in hospital 20 days later.

After the fire Mrs Narayan was overheard by neighbours saying she had only wanted to burn her husband's ***** "so it belongs to me and no one else," prosecutors claimed. "It's just his ***** I wanted to burn, I didn't mean this to happen," the Adelaide Advertiser quoted her as saying.

Lucy Boord, prosecuting, said that Mrs Narayan believed her husband was having an affair and was jealous. "She told neighbours 'my husband loves another woman, he hugs her'," she said. Mrs Narayan was originally charged with endangering life and arson offences over the incident in Adelaide but the charges have now been upgraded to murder.

Prosecutors said Mr Narayan was asleep in their two-storey Adelaide home when his wife set his genitals on fire on Dec 8. The blaze spread when he jumped out of bed and knocked over the bottle of spirits. Mrs Narayan and the couple's three children escaped the fire unhurt.

Mr Narayan, 47, died last week as a result of his burns.His widow was remanded in custody until Friday, pending the results of a psychological assessment.

Top 10 flirting tips

10. Flirting is all about attitude. A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic, open and positive. It works!

9. Start a conversation. The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, make a joke, state an opinion. Make sure you are calm and composed but just do it before the person you've got your eye on walks out of the bar or passed you in the street, never to be seen again!

8. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.

7. Use props. Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a distinctive bag from your favorite store or an interesting book or newspaper.

6. Be the host. Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee.

5. Make the first move. Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello! You can move closer to your perfect match online right now by contacting your perfect match for free.

4. Listen. You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.

3. Eye contact. Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare – it's a turn off.

2. Compliment. Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirtee" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely to say Thank You!

1. Smile. It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You will be a people magnet. Try it!

Funny Moments for President Bush

These are some Funny moments for bush in his Presidency. Have a look and enjoy.

Fun Without Law

Laws Which Newton Forgot to State

LAW OF QUEUE: If you change queues, the one you have left will start to move faster than the one you are in now.



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LAW OF TELEPHONE: When you dial a wrong number, you never get an engaged one.



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LAW OF MECHANICAL REPAIR : After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch.



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LAW OF THE WORKSHOP: Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.



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LAW OF THE ALIBI: If you tell the boss you were late for work because you had a flat tire, the next morning you will have a flat tire.



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BATH THEOREM: When the body is immersed in water, the telephone rings.



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LAW OF ENCOUNTERS: The probability of meeting someone you know increases when you are with someone you don't want to be seen with.



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LAW OF THE RESULT: When you try to prove to someone that a machine won't work, it will!



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LAW OF BIOMECHANICS: The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.



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THEATRE RULE: People with the seats at the furthest from the aisle arrive last.



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LAW OF COFFEE: As soon as you sit down for a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will last until the coffee is cold.

Ghajni Review

Ghajini is the Hindi adaptation of the critically acclaimed film Memento by Christopher Nolan, with the common theme of the protagonist suffering from anterograde amnesia or short term memory loss and seeking revenge for his wife’s murder. Ghajini will feature Aamir Khan, Asin Thottumkal and Jiah Khan in lead roles and will be directed by A. R. Murugadoss, who also directed the Tamil version of the film in 2005.

A. R. Rahman will be scoring the music for the film whilst Ravi K. Chandran and Anthony handle cinematography and editing of the film respectively. The film began shooting in May 2007, with songs having been shot in the Deadpan Desert of Namibia and in Cape Town, South Africa. The movie is notable for Aamir Khan having shaven his head bald. A 3d game is reportedly being produced, the release of which will coincide with the audio release. The film is regarded as the most awaited Bollywood movie of 2008. Ghajini has reportedly already made Rs 93 crore.

According to reports, the Indian Film Company has bagged the domestic distribution rights for Ghajini of an estimated Rs 53 crore. While its home video rights, overseas rights and satellite rights have been sold for another Rs 40 crore which brings to the grand total to Rs 93 crore.